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Michelle and Daniel were set to be married tomorrow at the Prince of Peace Lutheran Church in Fremont, CA. Today, we should all be converging on the East Bay to attend the rehearsal for the wedding followed by a dinner that I was to host as the groom’s father. It was going to be at BJ’s Restaurant and I had such a grand picture of the evening in my mind. We expected 30 or 40 people to be there and I was really looking forward to it. It would have been my night to shine as the proud father who would pick up the tab for the festivities. The groom’s dad has it so easy.
A number of people have asked me if I have had trouble sleeping. The answer is no. Sleep is a refuge. It allows me to shut out the reality we are living. While I may toss and turn, and wake up more than usual during the night, my sleep is usually deep. However, it is the waking up that hurts. I have vivid dreams that seem so real, but when I awake, Daniel’s being gone is what I always think of first. It’s almost like learning about his death for the first time over and over again.